Well said, this was a very enlightening read. Most self help books are just stroking the authors ego, and this book was no different. But I found between the lines that what you have said is made clear in the book. It's about giving a fuck about the right things that benefit you, as opposed to not caring whatsoever. I actually think you have addressed the true meaning of that book, whilst hating it at the same time.
I enjoy your tone. Will definitely be reading through your catalogue.
hey frank! thank you so much i didn’t see the book like that at all when i first read it (which was back in 2018 so maybe im due for a reread?) but to me the book was pretty much about individualism, which i completely disagree with and believe to be the invention of capitalism (the greater evil) but thank you so much for the compliment! hope you enjoy the read ;)
The book is heavy on individualism, there's alot of it that I agree with you on with how redundant it comes across as. You made a great point on community and I wholeheartedly agree. What's the point of going through life when you've got nobody to share it with, community is huge, which stems into love to a certain extent.
I read your piece and put up something that came to me through reading yours. So I should thank you :)
oh to edit it’s simple you just click on the three dots on the side of the dashboard and edit. i’ll read it in morning. and for the choice of Boromir i’m glad someone noticed!! i thought it was an iconic picture and just fit perfectly for the article
"Please care, or else you’ll just become one of those faceless zombies who ask ‘hi, how was your weekend’ over the coffee machine, and that is just terrifying and embarrassing."
Maybe this is a American issue again because I read so many articles complaining about the same type of person, and that everyone is the same and nobody is creative and doing art but if you actually go outside and don't life in NY it's not really a problem is it ? also always trying to be different and special and more creative then other people seems stressful and like you are constantly in a fightwith y persevering yourself, I rather be a little basic then always stressed.
This is great. Great flow, punchy, it has a narrative arc/structure. I particularly love the image of you waking up in the night arguing with this self help guru type.
"We should all care more. We live in a careless society where if you see someone get hit by a bus your first instinct isn’t to go help but to think ‘fuck I’m gonna be late to work’." word, so true. Seen this exact thing, someone throw their briefcase at the ground in disgust that their commute was ruined because someone jumped on the trainline.
I like this, I fuck with this philosophy. It's compassionate. I do think there is an element of truth in both sides really, and that a middle way is possible. For example feel free to not give a fuck about what I'm saying. As I give a fuck about these ideas and by extention, your essay, I'm going to be a knobhead and mention some of the things I give a fuck about.
"No one is out there trying to get you and fuck you in the ass" I mean... I get what you are saying but like... anal sex. There are plenty of people trying to "get" people and "fuck" them "in the ass". You weren't talking about that but hey, that's what the words say.
"I’m pretty sure the only thought crossing your co-worker’s head this morning was if her ass looked good in lululemons." well, maybe it does, but how do you know she's not thinking about donating to Gaza, or maybe not, because it's pointless, much like you yourself have thought. By assuming everyone around us is airheaded idiots its the same thing as being a don't give a fuck arsehole. Oh I'm better than them, everyone but me is an idiot. Everyone has interests and gives a fuck about something. Like your dead neighbour, RIP, you wished for more connection. Maybe we should stop assuming the only things going through someones mind is their ass, whether or not they're vain/look good/try hard - they're literally trying that hard because THEY GIVE A FUCK they give a fuck about what people think. And if their ass is the only thing going through their mind, maybe theres good reason, maybe they dont want to think about anything else right now, about rent, about grief, about the parts of life that fucking suck, maybe their ass makes them feel good about themselves, its not deep, but its not deep to give a fuck about everything either. nothing is deep, its just another part of life, all of it beautiful in its own way. Give a fuck about your coworker, maybe if you think she's thinking whether her ass looks good, don't just go out and say "your ass looks really good" cus like maybe they weren't thinking that, you were just thinking they were thinking that. Just thought it was contradictory.
"Give a fuck about the little pleasures of life like [...] a child (if you like children)" I mean.... idk why the brackets? it came across as odd to me. So if you don't like children? are the little pleasures in life like... watching a child fall over? aren't children an inherent part of the little pleasures (and pains) of life? isnt the point to give a fuck about all of it, whether you like it or not? like how you gave a fuck about your neighbour, even though you didnt like them?
I'm a dick, I write walls of texts on peoples things, I'm not even sorry about it. I give a fuck about writing, and meaning, and the conveyance of that meaning. Sometimes meaning gets confused because we know what it means so clearly in our heads but the reader might not. If you give a fuck about anything I've said, cool, if you think I'm a dickhead and rude, feel free to treat me to the exact same rudeness by ripping apart something I've written.
From the mouth of babes... This 18 year old just put an entire generation to shame! We should be giving a fuck about others, about this world we live in. And she's from the same town I'm in... putain! 😂
I haven’t read the manson book but it’s been on my Goodreads to read list for the longest time ever and the reason why i probably haven’t read it is because i don’t give a fuck about THAT book lol. Why would anyone read a book that doesn’t care about you, neither does the author…
I fucking love the way you hate. Yeah, I felt annoyed reading that book, it's like midlife crisis brand stoicism and it's not good
a midlife crisis brand stoicism you put it PERFECTLY
Yes yes yes and yes !!!
Yess omg,I am so sick of people glazing it 24/7
Well said, this was a very enlightening read. Most self help books are just stroking the authors ego, and this book was no different. But I found between the lines that what you have said is made clear in the book. It's about giving a fuck about the right things that benefit you, as opposed to not caring whatsoever. I actually think you have addressed the true meaning of that book, whilst hating it at the same time.
I enjoy your tone. Will definitely be reading through your catalogue.
hey frank! thank you so much i didn’t see the book like that at all when i first read it (which was back in 2018 so maybe im due for a reread?) but to me the book was pretty much about individualism, which i completely disagree with and believe to be the invention of capitalism (the greater evil) but thank you so much for the compliment! hope you enjoy the read ;)
The book is heavy on individualism, there's alot of it that I agree with you on with how redundant it comes across as. You made a great point on community and I wholeheartedly agree. What's the point of going through life when you've got nobody to share it with, community is huge, which stems into love to a certain extent.
I read your piece and put up something that came to me through reading yours. So I should thank you :)
oh my god send me the link i need to read it asap
This is the link, if you have thoughts let me know:
https://open.substack.com/pub/frankrush1/p/i-know-its-folly?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5rl9h1
I also love your choice of Boromir with shredder glasses on. Makes me think he's cooking up a wild burger on the crest of Caradhras with the boys
There are alot of misspellings that I missed I just wrote it and threw it out there lol I have no idea how to edit on this app
oh to edit it’s simple you just click on the three dots on the side of the dashboard and edit. i’ll read it in morning. and for the choice of Boromir i’m glad someone noticed!! i thought it was an iconic picture and just fit perfectly for the article
"Please care, or else you’ll just become one of those faceless zombies who ask ‘hi, how was your weekend’ over the coffee machine, and that is just terrifying and embarrassing."
Yesssss
Well said!
10/10, would read again.
Maybe this is a American issue again because I read so many articles complaining about the same type of person, and that everyone is the same and nobody is creative and doing art but if you actually go outside and don't life in NY it's not really a problem is it ? also always trying to be different and special and more creative then other people seems stressful and like you are constantly in a fightwith y persevering yourself, I rather be a little basic then always stressed.
still an interesting article and I like your writing
This is great. Great flow, punchy, it has a narrative arc/structure. I particularly love the image of you waking up in the night arguing with this self help guru type.
"We should all care more. We live in a careless society where if you see someone get hit by a bus your first instinct isn’t to go help but to think ‘fuck I’m gonna be late to work’." word, so true. Seen this exact thing, someone throw their briefcase at the ground in disgust that their commute was ruined because someone jumped on the trainline.
I like this, I fuck with this philosophy. It's compassionate. I do think there is an element of truth in both sides really, and that a middle way is possible. For example feel free to not give a fuck about what I'm saying. As I give a fuck about these ideas and by extention, your essay, I'm going to be a knobhead and mention some of the things I give a fuck about.
"No one is out there trying to get you and fuck you in the ass" I mean... I get what you are saying but like... anal sex. There are plenty of people trying to "get" people and "fuck" them "in the ass". You weren't talking about that but hey, that's what the words say.
"I’m pretty sure the only thought crossing your co-worker’s head this morning was if her ass looked good in lululemons." well, maybe it does, but how do you know she's not thinking about donating to Gaza, or maybe not, because it's pointless, much like you yourself have thought. By assuming everyone around us is airheaded idiots its the same thing as being a don't give a fuck arsehole. Oh I'm better than them, everyone but me is an idiot. Everyone has interests and gives a fuck about something. Like your dead neighbour, RIP, you wished for more connection. Maybe we should stop assuming the only things going through someones mind is their ass, whether or not they're vain/look good/try hard - they're literally trying that hard because THEY GIVE A FUCK they give a fuck about what people think. And if their ass is the only thing going through their mind, maybe theres good reason, maybe they dont want to think about anything else right now, about rent, about grief, about the parts of life that fucking suck, maybe their ass makes them feel good about themselves, its not deep, but its not deep to give a fuck about everything either. nothing is deep, its just another part of life, all of it beautiful in its own way. Give a fuck about your coworker, maybe if you think she's thinking whether her ass looks good, don't just go out and say "your ass looks really good" cus like maybe they weren't thinking that, you were just thinking they were thinking that. Just thought it was contradictory.
"Give a fuck about the little pleasures of life like [...] a child (if you like children)" I mean.... idk why the brackets? it came across as odd to me. So if you don't like children? are the little pleasures in life like... watching a child fall over? aren't children an inherent part of the little pleasures (and pains) of life? isnt the point to give a fuck about all of it, whether you like it or not? like how you gave a fuck about your neighbour, even though you didnt like them?
I'm a dick, I write walls of texts on peoples things, I'm not even sorry about it. I give a fuck about writing, and meaning, and the conveyance of that meaning. Sometimes meaning gets confused because we know what it means so clearly in our heads but the reader might not. If you give a fuck about anything I've said, cool, if you think I'm a dickhead and rude, feel free to treat me to the exact same rudeness by ripping apart something I've written.
Good rant. I haven't read the book yet but will do one day.
From the mouth of babes... This 18 year old just put an entire generation to shame! We should be giving a fuck about others, about this world we live in. And she's from the same town I'm in... putain! 😂
this is a huge fuck yes
Couldn’t agree more! I hateeeeeddd this book. I give so many fucks and it’s one of my favorite things about myself
well said! i believe self help books barely serve any help to any selves
I haven’t read the manson book but it’s been on my Goodreads to read list for the longest time ever and the reason why i probably haven’t read it is because i don’t give a fuck about THAT book lol. Why would anyone read a book that doesn’t care about you, neither does the author…